I suck at relationships. I am just now, at 28, realizing the depth of my ineptitude when it comes to relationships. This does explain why i’m not married yet. God is clearly sparring my future husband this horrible time of me learning how to have healthy relationships.
The thing is, I don’t appear to suck at relationships. If you met me you would think “Gosh, she is so relational and socially savvy.”
Impressive huh?
Reality: I need friendships. I need relationship desperately. And I don’t like when the relationships I have change. I think every once in a while I cross the line though. I cross into the Land of Needy.
The Land of Needy is annoying when it’s someone you don’t know. The random acquiantance you just met a month ago being needy is annoying.
But what about if it’s your best friend? Is it annoying when your best friend needs you? And what if it is?
Sometimes I think we (yeah, you too) shy away from “needing” anyone because it makes us very vulnerable. The thing is we do need each other sometimes.
Kids need their parents. Parents even need their children. People need leaders. Leaders need the people they lead too.
It’s reciprocal; this neediness. We need each other. Not “like” or “appreciate” or “tolerate” or “enjoy.” We NEED each other. At some point, any relationship that lasts long enough crosses over a threshold of sorts and you start to need each other.
You become a vital part of each others lives.
I get that it’s not cool to say and it even harder to live it out (seriously, I get it) but I will no longer be ashamed of needing those people God has placed in my life for exactly that purpose.
That’s right, when it comes to my best friends – I’M NEEDY. And hopefully you can be needy with me too.
